By elocal magazine
Supporters say Tory Whanau’s treatment shows sexism still shapes New Zealand politics.
Critics say her downfall was due to chaos and poor leadership, not misogyny.
The left calls out structural hostility toward women, while the right sees victimhood used as a shield.
You have to decide on your own “truth” along the empathy/accountability line.
A victim or a failed leader
Tory Whanau’s political downfall has exposed a divide in how New Zealanders view women in power.
To some, including academic Cassandra Mudgway in The Conversation, ex-Wellington Green Party mayor Tory Whanau’s experience reflects how sexism and racism drive women from public life.
Others argue her failures were political and managerial, not gendered, and that blaming misogyny risks excusing poor performance.
Whanau did face racist and sexist abuse. Few dispute that. But critics say politics is ruthless by nature. Every public figure faces hostility. What matters is how they handle it.
Chaos at the council
Supporters note that Whanau inherited a divided council and a city already struggling with debt and infrastructure decay. They argue she faced an impossible task.
Her critics paint a different picture. Staff turnover was high, meetings fell apart, her drinking became public, and projects faltered. Wellington felt stuck as rates rose and confidence fell.
Voters responded to how they saw it. Even in the Māori ward, where Whanau might have expected strong support, she lost. For her opponents, this showed voters were rejecting performance, not gender.
The politics of blame
To the left, the abuse Whanau faced is proof that women in leadership still encounter personal attacks that their male counterparts rarely endure.
To the right, the abuse narrative has become a political shield, a way to deflect criticism by portraying legitimate scrutiny as prejudice.
Former Green MP Benjamin Doyle made a similar claim in his valedictory speech, calling Parliament “hostile and toxic” for anyone who is not a “cis straight white man with a blue suit and a briefcase.” His defenders say he spoke an uncomfortable truth. His critics say he avoided responsibility for controversies of his own making.
The victim hierarchy
Some commentators describe a “victim hierarchy,” an informal ranking of social groups by how much sympathy their identity earns.
Those who see this hierarchy as real say it reflects how moral authority now operates, rewarding perceived oppression and punishing dissent. Others call that idea itself partisan spin, arguing it downplays the real risks women and minorities face in public life.
Still, the perception of double standards persists. When the same institutions that demand “kindness” excuse abusive rhetoric from their own side, critics say it erodes public trust.
Abuse cuts both ways
Everyone agrees that political abuse is ugly. The disagreement is over whether it is evenly condemned. ACT MP Karen Chhour has faced vile personal attacks from Te Pāti Māori and Labour figures. Yet her defenders note that those incidents rarely spark the same media outrage that surrounds attacks on progressive women.
Councillor Celia Wade-Brown’s casual use of the phrase “pale, male and stale” to describe older white men drew little criticism. To some, that shows tolerance of bigotry when it serves an acceptable cause. To others, it is harmless satire in a rough political world.
The line between abuse and accountability
Mudgway argues for tighter rules to make politics safer for women. Critics fear that it would give partisan actors power to decide which opinions are “safe” and which are “hate.”
Both sides claim to defend fairness. One seeks protection from “harmful” communication; the other, from censorship.
Voters will draw their own line between empathy and accountability, depending on which kind of failure they find harder to forgive, moral or managerial.
Centrist Ltd
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